Thursday, October 13, 2011

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

戀情-四個階段

有位心理學家曾寫道,
  一個成熟稱得上真愛的戀情必須經過四個階段,
  那就是:
  共存、反依賴、獨立、共生
  之間轉換所需的時間不一定,因人而易。
  
  第一個階段:共存。
  這是熱戀時期,
  不論何時何地總希望能膩在一起。
  
  第二個階段:反依賴。
  等情感穩定,
  一方想多一點時間做自己想做的事,
  這時另一方就會感到被冷落。
  
  第三個階段:獨立。
  這是第二個階段的延續,
  要求更多獨立自主的時間。
  第四個階段:共生。
  這時新的相處之道成形,
  你們已經成為最親密的人。
  你們在一起相互扶持、一起開創屬於你們人生。
  你們在一起不會互相牽絆,而會互相成長。
  他(她)就像是你的親人。
  
  但是,
  好多人都通不過第二或第三階段,
  選擇分手。
  其實很多事只要好好溝通就會沒事,
  可是想太多和任性就是無法避免。
  
  世界上遇到唯一的你多麼不容易
 能不能不要輕言放棄。
2011-10-11 

Monday, October 10, 2011

不敢敲门

手机震,有一条信息“我决定去告白了!”
他和她一直是好朋友,可她一直爱着他,“哦…那你加油。”
“我在她家门外好久了,不敢敲门。”
“大着胆子敲吧!我挺你!”
“你说她会答应吗?”
“我不知道。”
她放下手机,不争气的掉泪。
手机又震,却是电话,她接了…
“你开下门吧,我还是不敢敲。”

关于Jobs和他妻子

一个关于Jobs和他妻子的故事~

某天,在某大学演讲的Jobs突然变得磕磕绊绊,原来,他发现台下正做着一个非常漂亮的女士听他演讲。演讲过后,他本来想邀请这位女士共进晚餐,但是他想到晚上还有个重要的会议。这时他陷入了两难,于是他这样问自己:如果今天是世界末日,那么我是去开会,还是和这位女士共进晚餐?答案当然是后者。于是他邀请了这位漂亮的女士共进晚餐,之后,她就成为了Steve Jobs的妻子。

“如果今天是世界末日。。。”,每当Jobs面临抉择的时候,他都会这样审视自己的内心。

嗯,也许有时候我们也应该这样问自己。。。。

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Slow dance

This is a poem written by a teenager with cancer.

She wants to see how many people get her poem.
This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a New York Hospital

It was sent by
a medical doctor - Make sure to read what is in the closing statement
AFTER THE POEM.
SLow Dance 
Have you ever watched kids

On a merry-go-round?

Or listened to the rain

Slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?

Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

You better slow down.

Don't dance so fast

Time is short.

The music won't last


Do you run through each day

On the fly?

When you ask How are you?

Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done

Do you lie in your bed

With the next hundred chores

Running through your head?

You'd better slow down

Don't dance so fast

Time is short.

The music won't last


Ever told your child,

We'll do it  tomorrow?

And in your haste,

Not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch,

Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time

To call and say,'Hi'

You'd better slow down.

Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.

The music won't last



When you run so fast to get somewhere

You miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry and hurry through your day,

It is like an unopened gift...

Thrown away.

Life is not a race

Do take it slower

Hear the music

Before the song is over.

The European Commission has just announced an agreement whereby English will be the official language of the European Union rather than German, which was the other possibility.

As part of the negotiations, the British Government conceded that English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5- year phase-in plan that would become known as "Euro-English".

In the first year, "s" will replace the soft "c". Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy. The hard "c" will be dropped in favour of "k". This should klear up konfusion, and keyboards kan have one less letter. There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the troublesome "ph" will be replaced with "f". This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.

In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.

Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.

Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent "e" in the languag is disgrasful and it should go away.

By the 4th yer people wil be reseptiv to steps such as replasing "th" with "z" and "w" with "v".

During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary "o" kan be dropd from vords kontaining "ou" and after ziz fifz yer, ve vil hav a reil sensi bl riten styl.

Zer vil be no mor trubl or difikultis and evrivun vil find it ezi tu understand ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.

Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas.

replace:
c by s
c by k
ph by f
double to single
e by none
th by z
w by v
ou by u


the opposite?


An atheist professor of philosophy speaks to his class on the problem science has with God, The Almighty.
He asks one of his new students to stand and…..

Prof: So you believe in God?

Student: Absolutely, sir.

Prof: Is God good?

Student: Sure.

Prof: Is God all-powerful?

Student: Yes..

Prof: My brother died of cancer even though he prayed to God to heal him. Most of us would attempt to help others who are ill. But God didn’t. How is this God good then? Hmm?
(Student is silent.)

Prof: You can’t answer, can you? Let’s start again, young fella. Is God good?

Student: Yes.

Prof: Is Satan good?

Student: No.

Prof: Where does Satan come from?

Student: From….God…

Prof: That’s right. Tell me son, is there evil in this world?

Student: Yes.

Prof: Evil is everywhere, isn’t it? And God did make everything. Correct?

Student: Yes.

Prof: So who created evil?
(Student does not answer.)

Prof: Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things exist in the world, don’t they?

Student: Yes, sir.

Prof: So, who created them?
(Student has no answer.)

Prof: Science says you have 5 senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Tell me, son…Have you ever seen God?

Student: No, sir.

Prof: Tell us if you have ever heard your God?

Student: No, sir.

Prof: Have you ever felt your God, tasted your God, smelt your God? Have you ever had any sensory perception of God for that matter?

Student: No, sir. I’m afraid I haven’t.

Prof: Yet you still believe in Him?

Student: Yes.

Prof: According to empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your GOD doesn’t exist.
What do you say to that, son?

Student: Nothing. I only have my faith.

Prof: Yes. Faith. And that is the problem science has.

Student: Professor, is there such a thing as heat?

Prof: Yes.

Student: And is there such a thing as cold?

Prof: Yes.

Student: No sir. There isn’t.
(The lecture the after becomes very quiet with this turn of events.)

Student: Sir, you can have lots of heat, even more heat, superheat, mega heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat..
But we don’t have anything called cold. We can hit 458 degrees below zero which is no heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold. Cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat is energy Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it .
(There is pin-drop silence in the lecture theatre.)

Student: What about darkness, Professor? Is there such a thing as darkness?

Prof: Yes. What is night if there isn’t darkness?

Student : You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright
light, flashing light…..But if you have no light constantly, you have nothing and it’s called darkness, isn’t it? In reality, darkness isn’t. If it were you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn’t you?

Prof: So what is the point you are making, young man?

Student: Sir, my point is your philosophical premise is flawed.

Prof: Flawed? Can you explain how?

Student: Sir, you are working on the premise of duality. You argue there is life and then there is death, a good God and a bad God. You are viewing the concept of God as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, science can’t even explain a thought.. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one.To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing. Death is
not the opposite of life: just the absence of it.
Now tell me, Professor.Do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?

Prof: If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, yes, of course, I do.

Student: Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?
(The Professor shakes his head with a smile, beginning to realize where the argument is going.)

Student: Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor, are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you not a scientist but a preacher? (The class is in uproar.)

Student: Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the Professor’s brain?
(The class breaks out into laughter.)

Student : Is there anyone here who has ever heard the Professor’s brain, felt it, touched or smelt it? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established rules of empirical, stable, demonstrable protocol, science says that you have no brain,sir. With all due respect, sir, how do we then trust your lectures, sir?
(The room is silent. The professor stares at the student, his face unfathomable.)

Prof: I guess you’ll have to take them on faith, son.

Student: That is it sir… The link between man & god is FAITH . That is all that keeps things moving & alive.

I believe you have enjoyed the conversation…and if so…you’ll probably want your friends/colleagues to enjoy the same…won’t you?….this is a true story, and the

student was none other than …….
APJ Abdul Kalam, the former President of India